Celebrate Valentine’s Day Single

Navigating how to celebrate Valentine’s Day single can be really hard and cause a whole mix of emotions. Trust me, I’ve been there.  Nothing can make you feel more lonely than watching your married friends go out on romantic dinner dates . How are you supposed to celebrate love when you’re single and maybe even still heartbroken?!

Valentine’s Day isn’t only for celebrating romantic love. Let it be about the love between you and your children, your friends, and most importantly for yourself! There is a great opportunity to empower yourself through February instead of allowing it to bring you down. Here are four ways to not only celebrate Valentine’s Day while single but to thrive through the month and beyond!

Create New Traditions

Host a Galentine’s Day Dinner with your closest friends. Celebrate the power of female friendships and the support that comes with it. Share stories, laughter, and even exchange small tokens of appreciation. Here’s some more fun ideas for your Galentine’s Dinner. Creating memories and traditions with your kids by doing something fun together. You could bake heart-shaped cookies, craft homemade valentines, or have a movie night with popcorn or fancy ice cream sundaes. 

By embracing new traditions, create a sense of joy and fulfillment that goes beyond romantic relationships. Valentine’s Day becomes an opportunity to cherish the meaningful connections in your life and indulge in the simple pleasures of companionship.

Ignore it

Maybe Valentine’s Day celebration of any kind while single just feels like too much this year. If so there are certain things that may be a good idea to avoid.⁠ Instead of falling into the comparison trap of social media consider taking a few days without the apps. If you find yourself upset or hurting with each image of romantic gestures, staying off social media is a healthy choice… and a form of self care. It can be a subconscious habit to click open the apps and scroll, so you may consider deleting the apps and altogether for a couple of days.⁠

If the office vibe feels overwhelming with flowers and chocolates, consider taking the day off and treating yourself to a well-deserved break. Create space for self-reflection and personal enjoyment. Choose to partake in activities that bring genuine happiness, whether it’s a solo adventure, a day at the spa, or indulging in your favorite hobbies. ⁠ ⁠ During this time of year celebrate the love you have for yourself, friends, and family. Choose joy over pressure and allow Valentine’s Day becomes an opportunity for self-discovery and personal fulfillment.⁠

Pamper Yourself

Navigating life after divorce can be challenging, especially during Valentine’s Day and other holidays. I encourage you to use the Valentine’s season as an opportunity to celebrate self-love and empowerment. Instead of dwelling on past relationships, indulge in a night dedicated entirely to pampering yourself. Stay in, turn your home into a personal sanctuary, and treat yourself to a luxurious facial and pedicure. Spend some time journaling (here are a few great journaling prompts I shared last year). Cozy up on the couch with your favorite blanket, order in your go-to takeout, and binge-watch that series you’ve been dying to catch up on. Amidst the emotional rollercoaster of divorce, it’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being. You deserve every bit of love and kindness, especially from yourself.

Create a Love Basket

My last suggestion for celebrating Valentine’s Day single is to create a love basket. This one may sound a little woo-woo but I am firmly convinced that this is how I manifested my husband Joe after my divorce from my first husband. See below for the steps to creating a love basket.

  • Step 1: Make a list of the 10 most important qualities that your perfect love match will possess. Examples from my list were: loves to travel, will love my kids as his own, tall, dark and handsome.
  • Step 2: Find a basket that will be your “love basket” and fill it with items which symbolize to you each one of the qualities on your list. For mine I added a European travel guidebook, a photo of my kids, and picture of a guy from GQ. Get as creative as you’d like.
  • Step 3: Fill the basket with the items you have collected. Be sure to add something red to the basket as well.
  • Step 4: Place the item in the love corner. This comes from Feng SHui..

Now that you’ve created your basket, here’s the important part- each day hold each item in your hands and send them positive vibes, pray if that’s your thing, and really envision this quality in a person. This time spent with each item and envisioning yourself with a person with these qualities allows you to truly invite that into your life.

I have found clients who prioritize self-care during their case find themselves stronger than they were before. This isn’t to say they don’t struggle and experience sadness and hurt, but their cup is more full and they can become stronger through it. They are better equipped to make sound, logical judgments that are in their and their kids’ best interests.

So, Happy Valentine’s Day to all you resilient souls navigating this incredibly difficult time 💕 My hope is you find ways to celebrate love that surrounds you and that you refuse to let this experience steal one more day of your joy.