Summer Bucket List For Healing After Divorce

Summertime for divorced parents usually means more time without your kids than you usually do during the school year. Often times you have to accommodate vacation time with their other parent or you may have a different timesharing plan altogether. For those with long-distance co-parents, the majority of the summer can be spent without kids.  When you are newly divorced, this can be an especially painful adjustment.  So, June is the perfect time to create a summer bucket list for healing after divorce.  One of my biggest pieces of advice as a divorce attorney, mediator and divorced mom is that the best way to use our kid-free time is to pour into our own self care.

Schedule a solo trip

Where is a place you have always wanted to? It can be a big dream trip or small gas tank round trip.  Traveling alone can be daunting at first, so start small if need be.  Even a weekend away at the beach can be a life changing experience.  I am a hug fan of solo trips and schedule a least one per year (to this day) even though I have been divorced for 16 years now!  This time is great to reconnect with yourself and do something nice for yourself.  Don’t be afraid to splurge a little, you deserve it!  You just walked through one of the most stressful times of your life.  

Sign up for a new class (yoga, painting, learn a language)

Extra time without your kids is a great opportunity to try something new rather than sitting at home. Therefore, start with brainstorming some ideas. Sign up for something you have always wanted to try– yoga, watercolors, learn a language, an instrument or take a cooking class. What inspires you?

Create a Gratitude List

All things considered, it’s important to embrace the simple joys that come with time to yourself. List all the things about your new single status that you appreciate.  It’s so easy to only focus on the things we have lost when our marriages ended, but we know there are some positive things that came with it.  For example, here are a few ideas:

  • I no longer live in a loveless marriage to the little stuff
  • I get to decorate my space anyway that I want
  • I don’t have to do awful carline every morning

When you are focusing on the good things, it helps us attract more and more positive energy, people, and experiences. Gratitude is so important, if you haven’t already, you should check out my blog post all about gratitude.

Sign up for our Free Printable Post Divorce Bucket List

We have created a fun Post Divorce Bucket-List printable so you can check off as many boxes as you commit to making this the summer of YOU!  We even left a few blank spaces for you to add your own!  You can download it here: